You are my hiding place

So my last post on this thing was in July...that's a pretty safe bet that no one will check this and read it.

I am frustrated beyond belief right now. I am at the point of tears with no way to hold them back. It's like everything is crumbling around me, but at the same time I know Christ is holding me in His hand. He'll never let me go and I know He has a plan for me, but I really wish I could just figure out what it is. Sometimes I think I know, but I'm never right.

Things with my mom are frustrating...to say the least. It's so hard to know how to feel exactly. You feel sad, but mad. Alone, yet blessed. Selfish, but oh so confused. Tired of waiting, and sick of watching it all slowly unfold. People who haven't been there don't know how to talk to you about it, and that's not there fault. But at the same time you just feel like it would be so much better to just have one person, just one, who kind of gets it. I mean cancer in a way is a blessing. Better than dying unexpectedly in a car crash. You have the time to say goodbye. But is any amount of time ever enough? Either way you are still going to have regrets of how time was spent. With her it's difficult to spend time together. You want alone time, you want memories to hold on to. But she works all day, comes home and does a few things around the house, then goes to bed super early. After her day she is drained. So really there is no time during the week. You want to talk and ask questions about things you don't know...but you don't want to ask them awkwardly like "Hey, you won't be here to tell me later so tell me now." You don't know how to talk, how to share, how to feel.
It's easy to get frustrated when friends talk about getting married or wanting to have kids when you know she won't be there to tell you how her pregnancies were, or how it was when she got married young. What it was like raising 6 kids and how she made it through. When you know she won't be there to make baby blankets for your children, or those goofy towel things that go on the refrigerator handles. I think it makes it harder when everyone tells you that you look like her or that you're like her in a lot of ways. I'm not trying to be proud or selfish or whatever, but I am more like her than anyone else. I look the most like her, I act the most like her, I think like her, I enjoy a lot of the same things she does. In fact, I wish I was even more like her. I want to learn more things from her, to find out more things about her life. But how do you ask? How do you ask her to teach you something when she knows you're only asking cause she's dying.
I want her to be a grandma for my kids. I want them to get to know her the way I know her.

Things just don't seem right. I've been doing pretty good, reading my bible everyday. I let go of my missions dream because I thought maybe I only wanted what someone else had. I wanted to be too much like them because of how wonderful their life seemed to be. But then today, hearing about a trip just felt like a tug at me heart. But I think I'm just mistaken. I can't be cut out for it. No one would support it anyway. And if I plan it and she goes downhill...I can't have that. Maybe it will always be just a dream...just something I'll hear stories about.

Then of course there's the boy. Sometimes I can't see myself ever being away from him...but some days I don't even know who he is. He just seems to get mad at me so easily, I don't know how to stay on his good side. He says he doesn't feel close to me anymore, and maybe he's right. He complains that I don't kiss him enough, we don't have enough couple time, and that he just doesn't feel like I really care about him sometimes. I don't know what he wants from me. I ask him and he doesn't know. Well if he doesn't, then how am I supposed to? I give him my reasons for the things I do but they are never good enough. I don't want to mess up again...but he doesn't seem to understand. He never seems to understand my feelings on anything. Not until way after the fact and we get in a fight. I want him to be a better christian so he can be the spiritual leader in the relationship, but he doesn't understand why it's the guys job. Some days I think that maybe he's not right for me...but I don't see anyone else out there who would be. But I need him. When she's gone, I'll need him and his family more than ever. It's not that I don't love him, I just wish he didn't get so mad at me. I just wish he would try to understand more sometimes. But other times he is wonderful, and I couldn't love him more. So I guess no relationship is perfect. I love him and we'll work out all the rest....I just wish he would support me in whatever I want to do. That's what I'm trying to do for him...I just want the same thing in return.

"You are my hiding place; You will protect me from trouble, and surround me with songs of deliverance."
-Psalm 32:7